Can we still feel sexy and vital after we go through the change in life?
There are a few reasons we experience a loss in our libido, from feeling rundown with the stress of our daily lives to have any energy at the end of the day, to body image issues that make us feel ashamed that our maturing bodies are no longer the smooth, supple, slim forms they once were.
One of the biggest reasons we, as women experience a loss of libido is the menopause. It’s a surprisingly common symptom. Studies show that approximately 50% of women experience a change in sexual desire after menopause. Other menopausal symptom’s such as vaginal dryness and weight gain will both contribute to the decline in our sex drive, but the main reasons are related to our hormone balance and the fact that some women become more introvert as the desire for them is to journey within as their sexual energy takes a different turn – biological fertility gives way to spiritual fertility.
The physiological reason for this is because the temporal lobes of the brain increase, making inner focus and greater intuitive energies more prevalent. In fact our ancestors looked upon postmenopausal woman as wise women, to be honored and respected in the communities – an admiration, which only grew as she grew older, drawing people to her to counsel them in her wisdom. This beautiful reverence of the elders in the community is something, which is very sadly lacking in today’s society.
After we go through the menopause the ovaries no longer function as endocrine organs although when the levels drop from the ovaries the adrenals step in to take over the production of estrogen and progesterone in the body. Our adrenals are already busy little organs producing testosterone, cortisol and adrenaline, so if we are stressed and our adrenals are overloaded they will not be able to cope with this extra workload. Taking care of our adrenals is paramount to enjoying good health and maintaining our libido well past our menopause.
And it is not only our sex lives that are facing a potential demise, we are also at risk of weak vaginal tissue which results in poor tone and eventual incontinence beginning with sneezing, laughing and trampolining becoming activities we’d prefer to leave in the past!
But it need not spell incontinence, a weak, dry vagina and the end of our sex lives. In fact with a little training women can learn to not only take back their libido and but to learn to let it take them to places they had never before imagined existed.
Women should be able to – and can, choose to take their sexual energy and turn it into healing, restorative energy for both themselves and their partners.
Please visit my YOGA pages for some asanas to increase the energy in your pelvis and hips to help rejuvenate your libido.
If this article resonates with any challenges you are facing at this time in your life, please click follow below to be alerted to my upcoming workshops on female hormonal health and how to find your libido after the menopause, and enjoy a very enriching, healing and satisfying sex life.
Two new workshops coming soon –
- Balance your Hormones Naturally
- The Menopause – no need to pause your libido!
LORRAINE EREIRA 